Monday Morning: Tulie convinced me that it’s ok to tell my girlfriends I don’t need self-help books ;)

TULIE MUTTULINGAM

“If the stacking of the bookshelves are anything to go by, we have a lot of under-confident people in Colombo city, searching for a better way / better meaning in their lives. Nothing wrong with that of course. As a devourer of several self-help books in the past I know where they are coming from.”
Tulie

Gaya’s Intro: I loved Tuesdays with Morrie up to a point and after a few days wished that he would get on with the business of passing his soul into the soulcloud. I groan when a girlfriend tells me that they just bought 4 copies of the same book in the USA for their girlfriends and that it’s in the car if I could walk up with em…. 😉 Now I feel stronger in denying their love and self-help book offers. Babes, I don’t want anymore clichés.. now if you were offering an hour on Nilaveli beach toes upturned towards the bay of Bengal with a long iced drink in hand… no? then am off for that chase-the-blues morning swim girl.

TULIE

It’s a phenomenon that has exploded all over the bookshelves of Colombo bookshops; Self-Help Books.

They have always been there of course but lately they seem to be EVERWHERE! Not in just select shelves, in out-of-the-way corners as they used to be, say, a decade ago.

If the stacking of the bookshelves are anything to go by, we have a lot of under-confident people in Colombo city, searching for a better way / better meaning in their lives. Nothing wrong with that of course. As a devourer of several self-help books in the past I know where they are coming from.

So here’s a tip from a world-weary self-help book reader;

Don’t waste your money on self-help books. You’ll eventually have to buy a self-help book on how to stop buying self-help books. The only people those books actually help are the pompous authors of that drivel.

They are really smart these authors. They know only one thing clearly. Their target audiences are under-confident people who probably got that way due to not having enough approbation / appreciation / love in their lives (aka eighty percent of the world’s population according to established studies).

Their works therefore spill over with feel-good drivel on love, kindness and compassion and some real gems on how to achieve success since you don’t know it already and have to shell out several hundred rupees to get it:

Work from your heart!

Love from your soul!

Give it all you’ve got!

Live in the present; don’t worry about the past or the future!

Believe in yourself! (Heh! If you did, why would you buy the book?)

Really valuable gems eh? When ‘The monk who sold his Ferrari’ was being touted as the next best thing to peanut butter some years ago, I rushed to buy it along with some other gullible people searching for ‘meaning’ in their lives. The blurb on the back gave a lot of promise too. A monk who had gone all the way into the Himalayas to search for the meaning of life and then been compassionate enough to return to tell us mortals the truth.

Inside, several chapters were devoted to each of the above points. Only hermits in the Himalayas knew them before and now thanks to Robin Sharma, theParamrahasya (mystical super-secret) of working from your heart and loving from your soul is also known to all others who read the book.

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Comments

  1. well, i think different books ‘speak’ differently to each person that reads it. For some people self help books actually helps them gain perspective of things , for others it could be a total joke. So it depends on the person who reads it.

    • Thanks, I was hoping to get a few terse comments on the use of these self-help books but methinks that the success of these books have spawned an over-reliance on such books maybe? Just asking around.

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